Dedicated wife and mother with youngest son
Husband and Westlake Police to remove
the Macfarlane children from home. Fortunately the nightmare ended
with the children remaining in their own home for a few more days.
Constitutional Law professor Stephen Safranek submitted (Feb 2005) an argument to the Ohio court that the divorce case must be transferred to a Roman Catholic Ecclesiastic Tribunal for arbitration. In the memorandum, Safranek argues that Ohio law, "favors arbitration agreements and seeks to uphold them." Citing legal precedents in favor of arbitration, including many cases where religious tribunals were the arbitrators, he asserts: "Courts have readily recognized antenuptial agreements demanding the help of religious tribunals." ... "A failure of the courts to recognize the arbitration rights of the Catholic Church in this case not only violates the understanding Marie had when she entered upon this marriage, it necessarily entangles this court in issues relating to Catholic law, teaching, faith and belief."
My husband agreed, prior to marriage, to marry as the Catholic Church understands marriage, which includes following the specifications in the Code of Canon Law. When the courts, my husband and bishops abide by these specifications, we, and millions of others like me, will have our families kept from the clutches of the divorce industry because of canon 1153 and 1692.
If my husband wants to quit being a good husband, there is no way to coerce him to agree to work on having a healthy relationship with me. All human relationships have ups and downs. What makes matters worse is that tens of thousands of dollars of our family's money is given to members of the divorce industry. They force us to sell our home; they force me to give authority over parenting decisions to a court ordered psychologist and guardian et litum. (We can all guess what these divorce industry professionals think about stay-at-home moms.) There is no room for us in their world view. I should "get on with life," get a job, send my sons to day care and get remarried (commit adultery). According the the divorce mentality, I should have had a full time job all along to protect me from being impoverished when my husband divorces me. My husband's attorney told the judge that I'm having trouble getting through the anger stage. Does he think I shouldn't be angry? Anger, also called righteous indignation, is an instinct required for preservation of the species and to ensure social justice. I am not pretending that I was the perfect wife, but I was THE human wife my husband married, and we contracted to be married till death, and as a Catholic, my husband agreed to be married for life.
According to our code, if my husband insists on remaining separated and abandoning me, my ecclesiastic court shall issue a separation decree which must include findings for upbringing of children and support. I expect the civil court to uphold our arbitrator’s separation decree, not a government psychologist’s separation plan.
See our beautiful son. He was weaned due to court orders. He was forced to leave his familiar surroundings to go be with his father in the place he rented. Our young sons couldn't be tucked in or have me join them in their nighttime prayers, as had been done every day of their life. Our sons couldn't review their day with me. I couldn't help them brush their teeth. They missed me at mealtimes, cuddle-times, the chores we do together, the books we read together, the projects we work on etc., etc., etc. Dad is not a Mom substitute. Millions of Catholic Mothers and Fathers are being forced to watch our children be harmed by our wayward spouses' choice to divorce. We are MADD: Mom and Dad Divorce Defendants, and we expect our antenuptial agreement to follow the Code of Canon law, and our marriage contract to be married till death to be upheld.
On September 13, 2004, my husband came with the local police to apprehend our children (photo at right). The City Police Officers delivered the message that the divorce judge had just given my husband custody of our four boys because I was continuing to school our sons as they always had been schooled. In January of 2004, the court ordered psychologist decided our method of schooling was not in the boys best interest though millions of children are thriving in the same system. I was warned in January, that the judge would eventually take our children away if I did not agree with their psychologist. I didn't hear the judges exact words because she told my attorney about this pre judgment, off the record, in a secret meeting in which I was not allowed to be present.
My current attorney is an expert in our education method and has asked for a hearing on the matter. Legally, the Judge eventually has to allow for a hearing on schooling. We submitted an affidavit stating I only signed the papers in January, because I was coerced and under duress, but the judge wouldn't let me have a hearing on the matter this past summer. Instead, see what happens to a stay-at-home mom, 16 months after being abandoned by her husband, because she doesn't agree with the court ordered psychologist as to what is in her children's' best interest. The local police didn't have the jurisdiction to forcibly remove our children from home, but they were all taken several days later.