An 8.5 inch x 14 inch flyer, titled "Words of Hope and Comfort, 10 Things to Say and Do When Someone You Love is Newly Separated or Divorced, A Guide for Catholics" is published by the Department For Marriage and Family Ministries, Cleveland Diocese,

Excerpts from pulbication created by Cleveland Diocese, Words of Hope and Comfort
        As someone who is close to a recently separated or divorced individual, you have a great opportunity to be of help during a difficult time. You, perhaps more than anyone else, have the opportunity to bring support, affirmation, and a kind of spiritual healing to someone in great pain. What you say and do can make this time more bearable. Your words and actions will make real for your loved one the presence of God and the love of the Christian community in a way that no one else can. . . .
         3. Do be a good listener. One of the healthiest ways to work through painful feelings is by expressing them to someone who listens without judging.
        "Don't give advice or try to rush to provide solutions to problems. When the time is right, they will be able to make their own choices and solve problems on their own. 
        4. Do focus on religious values and faith. Faith can be a source of great comfort.
        Don't moralize about their marriage or judge what they have done. It is the rare Catholic who doesn't already know what their Church says about the permanency of marriage. It is the rarer person who makes the decision to divorce easily or without great anguish. They know what the Church says about the sacrament. They need much more to hear from a loved one about the mercy and strength God provides. One of the strongest things Jesus ever said was when he condemned those who pass judgment on others. Moral questions are best handled between the individual and confessor or between pastor and parishioner.