Rite of Roman Catholic Marriage

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Language Studied by Couple Prior to Marriage

The most popular pre-marriage instruction booklet, Together for Life, published by Ave Maria Press, is "Designed to help couples plan their ceremony, it contains the complete marriage rite with all variant prayers, blessings, and scripture texts. Full-page commentaries by Father Champlin on each of the 28 readings make Together For Life ideal for pastors to distribute to couples taking marriage instruction, for pre-Cana, college and high school marriage classes, and newlyweds." 

This booklet was submitted to our civil court as evidence that he had a prenuptial agreement.


The booklet has a chapter titled "The Rite of Marriage."  The language in the Rite, (Ordo Celebrandi Matrimonium Intra Missam) was promulgated by the legislator of our foreign or separate law on March 16th, 1969, by Pope Paul VI, by a Decree of the Sacred Congregation of Rites. To be married in accordance with the laws of the Roman Catholic Church we had to understand, in advance, that we would exchange certain rights and obligations and that we would accept children in accordance with the laws of Christ and His Church.  These laws include the Code of Canon Law. We were familiarized with the consent which we agreed to exchange, months before our wedding dates.

Bibliography
Translation Approved by the National Conference of Catholic Bishops and Confirmed by the Appostolic See. Copyright Intenational Comittee on English in the Liturgy, Inc. The Rite of Marriage New York, NY: Catholic Book Publishing Co., 1970
ISBN 1-89942-238-1

Excerpts


Rite of Marriage
Introductory Address
23.
All stand, including the bride and bridegroom, and the Priest addresses them in these or similar words:
My dear friends At the discretion of the priest, other words which seem more suitable under the circumstances, such as friends, or dearly beloved or brethren may be used. This also applies to parallel instances in the liturgy., you have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church's minister and this community. Christ abundantly blesses this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism and now he enriches and strengthens you by a special sacrament so that you may assume the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity. And so, in the presence of the Church, I ask you to state your intentions.

Statement of Intentions
24. The priest then questions them about their freedom of choice, faithfulness to each other, and the acceptance and upbringing of children:

N. and N., have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?
Will you love and honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives?


The following question may be omitted if, for example, the couple is advanced in years.
Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?

Each answers the questions separately.
Consent
25.
The priest invites the couple to declare their consent:
H-1
Since it is your intention to enter into marriage, join your right hands, and declare your consent before God and his Church.

They join hands

A

The bridegroom says: I, N., take you, N., to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

The bride says: I, N., take you, N., to be my husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

B

In the dioceses of the United States, the following form may also be used:
I, N., take you, N., for my lawful wife (husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

A

If, however, it seems preferable for pastoral reasons, the priest may obtain consent from the couple through questions.

First he asks the bridegroom:
N., do you take N. to be your wife? Do you promise to be true to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and honor her all the days of your life?

The bridegroom: I do.

Then he asks the bride: N., do you take N. to be your husband? Do you promise to be true to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and honor him all the days of your life?

I do.

B

In the dioceses of the United States the following alternative form may be used:
N., do you take N. for your lawful wife (husband), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part?

R: I do.
Reception of Consent
26.
Receiving their consent, the priest says:
You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you both with his blessings.
What God has joined, men must not divide.


R. Amen.
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
I-1 27. Priest:

A

May the Lord bless + these rings which you give to each other as the sign of your love and fidelity.

R. Amen.

B

Lord, bless these rings which we bless + in your name27b(110) Grant that those who wear them may always have a deep faith in each other. May they do your will and always live together in peace, good will, and love. (We ask this) through Christ our Lord.
R. Amen.

C

Lord, bless + and consecrate N. and N. in their love for each other. May these rings be a symbol of true faith in each other, and always remind them of their love. Through Christ our Lord.
R. Amen.

28.
The bridegroom places his wife's ring on her ring finger.
He may say: N.,
take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy spirit.

The bride places her husband's ring on his ring finger.
She may say: N.,
take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
... continues with Intercession

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